Posts from the ‘Life’ Category

Preparing for the future

When I was with my ex-husband, Nick, and I had Gavin, his parents purchased life insurance for him. I didn’t understand why at the time. It seemed so morbid to me, preparing for your child’s possible demise. Then when Nick and I split and the policy was allowed to lapse and eventually close altogether, I began to thinking about insurance and life insurance in earnest.

When Rob and I moved in together, he made sure we both had at least a bit of life insurance. Of course, we had our car insurance, renter’s insurance and then the little private policies on the expensive electronics Rob loves so much. But life insurance? What was the deal? I would learn soon enough.

We had some very basic life insurance on each other; in case of something horrible. That way we’d at least have enough for a small service and that was good enough at the time. Then my health made a drastic turn for the worse. One doctor told me I was “24 with the body of an 89-year-old”. Life insurance was going to be next to impossible to get now! They require physicals; Rob and I both knew I wouldn’t pass one. Who wants to cover someone with Fibromyalgia, chronic migraines, GERD and IBS?

Then to make matters even more complicated, we ended up on public assistance again. With public assistance you aren’t permitted to have whole life insurance because you can draw money out against the policy. They view that money as cash. We needed the insurance but we needed to find decent coverage that fit all of our needs. It was a nightmare!

In the end, we manged to get our insurance agent to find something that worked for us and with us. Thank God!

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The preferred parent

Children go through life in phases. Some phases are obvious and a given; the infant phase and toddler phase, for instance. Other phases are unique; which television shows they are hooked on or if they go through an orange food phase. The other two phases every child is likely to bounce between for many years are the Mommy Phase and the Daddy Phase.

The Mommy Phase is when the infant, toddler or child is about all things mommy. Mother and child appear joined at the hip. Where Mommy goes; so does the child. Mommy is the only one who is acceptable in life for fulfilling any of the day-to-day needs. Hungry? Ask mommy. Wet or dirty and in need of a diaper change? Find mommy. Tired? Only mommy will do. It isn’t that I’m any better at any of those things than Daddy. It’s just that I’m the preferred parent at that point in time.

The Daddy Phase is the exact same phase only the roles are reversed. Rather than being the preferred parent for every action, outing and need; Rob is. For all things in life, during the Daddy Phase, only he will do. No substitutions accepted.

While you would think that I would be grateful for a Daddy Phase because it allows a certain amount of extra “me time”; it doesn’t always work out that way. There is something rather insulting with a sense of abandonment about the Daddy Phase. Suddenly, overnight at times, it seems as if I am no longer good enough. The food I prepare is sub-par. The bedtime stories I’ve chosen aren’t long enough or funny enough. Sometimes it seems the things I say and do…well, the Boys seem to take them offensively. It’s heartbreaking to watch them prefers someone else, even if that “someone else” happens to be Rob.

Unfortunately, there aren’t many ways to get over things when I’m not the chosen parent. It’s simply one of those things I just have to move past. Unless of course I’d rather share my feelings with another mother, who is likely to understand. Either way, there really isn’t much I can do about the phase.

I know I should recognize the unseen benefit and enjoy the little bit of extra time I am being offered, while it lasts; especially since I always seem to be complaining about how little “me time” I’ve allowed. Plus, I know that all too quickly, I am going to find myself the object of obsession and soon I’ll be wishing for that extra “me time”. But for now, it’s hard.

It hurts me to hear Emmett John scream “Da” and “Daddy” over and over again. Knowing that he doesn’t say “Ma” or “Mommy”. He doesn’t call me anything. I know I shouldn’t allow it to get to me this way. I know it’s a phase and “This too shall pass.” But damnit, it does!

And now that I’ve vented and whined and had my little pitty party, I think I’ll go try and pay the bills with some blogging related stuff.

Movin’ On (Round 2)

The time has come.

The time is now.

For me to be packin’ up and movin’ on.

Yippee!

You may remember that for my 30th birthday, which wasn’t at all scary by the way, Rob and our friend Stuart gave me my domain http://dailymommysurvival.com as a gift. (Thanks again guys!) And that my friends, my readers, followers, and family is where you will find all things good, bad and indifferent in the Land of Lizze. From this point hence, please follow the bouncing ball over to

http://dailymommysurvival.com! 🙂

Yay!

(Oh and please excuse the mess over there as I am still working to get things “just right”. Don’t you just love OCD? lol)

Taking a Day Trip

I appreciate the guest post, Lindsay Valdez

What better way to get the family together and enjoy a day of fun and bonding then the day trip. There are many exciting places to go right in your own backyard and each state has its own unique appeal. Whether it is a day at the beach, a day at the river, or a day in the mountains, the day trip is the perfect getaway.

It begins like any vacation or trip begins with planning where to go and what the family would enjoy. Next comes the preparation or logistics if you will and these include: taking water and food, the proper clothes, maybe a first-aid kit, cell phone, and a small toolkit in case of a breakdown. The final thing that must be done is to turn on your home security cameras before leaving the house. It might be a good idea to let someone know where you are going and when you plan to be back.

My family loves the mountains and the adventure and beauty they bring. We live in the state of Colorado in the Denver metropolitan area next to the Rocky Mountains. One of our favorite drives is the drive up to Mount Evans. Mount Evans is one of the fourteeners (mountains with peaks towering over 14,000 feet) and the road up to the top of the mountain is one of the more exciting scary drives in the state. The last several miles of the trip the road narrows to where you can look on either side and see nothing but sky. Finally when you get to the top, the view is breathtaking. You can see the entire state of Colorado and Kansas.

New Poll! Opinions greatly appreciated!

I’ve added a poll to the right side of my blog asking for your thoughts and opinions about adding blog posts written for cash to my daily updates etc. It’s a good opportunity for me to help out my family and help pay the mounting bills for all things new and special that the boys are needing (like more diapers for Emmett John since he’s refusing to wear any of the diapers unless they have Cookie Monster on them!). I just want to make sure it’s the right thing for my blog because it’s become one of my babies as well.

So if you would be so kind as to offer up your opinions; I’d really appreciate it. =)

Homeward Bound!

All survived! =)

No needles. No abnormalities on the x-ray or EKG.

Gavin was fantastic! And we’re going home! =D

* posted on the fly w/o the use of proper editing tools 😉 *

~ Lizzeann

Slowly moving forward

He’s been taken for his chest x-ray, which Gavin found super cool because they were able to show him the x-ray images.

Then they came and performed his EKG, which Gavin didn’t mind because he could keep watching Total Drama Island. He wasn’t too keen on the stickers though.

The nurse didn’t say anything about them so I don’t know where we stand on their results.

I’ll update more later, when I have more to give.

* posted on the fly w/o the use of proper editing tools 😉 *

~ Lizzeann