Posts from the ‘Elliott Richard’ Category

The preferred parent

Children go through life in phases. Some phases are obvious and a given; the infant phase and toddler phase, for instance. Other phases are unique; which television shows they are hooked on or if they go through an orange food phase. The other two phases every child is likely to bounce between for many years are the Mommy Phase and the Daddy Phase.

The Mommy Phase is when the infant, toddler or child is about all things mommy. Mother and child appear joined at the hip. Where Mommy goes; so does the child. Mommy is the only one who is acceptable in life for fulfilling any of the day-to-day needs. Hungry? Ask mommy. Wet or dirty and in need of a diaper change? Find mommy. Tired? Only mommy will do. It isn’t that I’m any better at any of those things than Daddy. It’s just that I’m the preferred parent at that point in time.

The Daddy Phase is the exact same phase only the roles are reversed. Rather than being the preferred parent for every action, outing and need; Rob is. For all things in life, during the Daddy Phase, only he will do. No substitutions accepted.

While you would think that I would be grateful for a Daddy Phase because it allows a certain amount of extra “me time”; it doesn’t always work out that way. There is something rather insulting with a sense of abandonment about the Daddy Phase. Suddenly, overnight at times, it seems as if I am no longer good enough. The food I prepare is sub-par. The bedtime stories I’ve chosen aren’t long enough or funny enough. Sometimes it seems the things I say and do…well, the Boys seem to take them offensively. It’s heartbreaking to watch them prefers someone else, even if that “someone else” happens to be Rob.

Unfortunately, there aren’t many ways to get over things when I’m not the chosen parent. It’s simply one of those things I just have to move past. Unless of course I’d rather share my feelings with another mother, who is likely to understand. Either way, there really isn’t much I can do about the phase.

I know I should recognize the unseen benefit and enjoy the little bit of extra time I am being offered, while it lasts; especially since I always seem to be complaining about how little “me time” I’ve allowed. Plus, I know that all too quickly, I am going to find myself the object of obsession and soon I’ll be wishing for that extra “me time”. But for now, it’s hard.

It hurts me to hear Emmett John scream “Da” and “Daddy” over and over again. Knowing that he doesn’t say “Ma” or “Mommy”. He doesn’t call me anything. I know I shouldn’t allow it to get to me this way. I know it’s a phase and “This too shall pass.” But damnit, it does!

And now that I’ve vented and whined and had my little pitty party, I think I’ll go try and pay the bills with some blogging related stuff.

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Salt & Pepper

No, I’m not referring to my hair! Although I am slowly working toward full-fledged salt and pepper hair. I’m referring to Elliott Richard’s new pets.

He is the super proud new owner of two Bearded Dragons named: Salt and Pepper! =)

He started the weekend with a baby Green Iguana named Draco. Rob’s roommate in college had one and he loved it. So when we had to make the sad decision to pass out terrerium/aquarium on to Uncle Brian because Mr. Emmett John was too preoccupied with tossing things in, we also decided to get something small to replace it. Little did I know that Green Iguanas start out small and grow into something could eat a small dog if it were so inclined!!! (Where do we find the tiny lizards you see in movies??? Those things are always poisonous but never that big!) So Draco came home and joined the Cheerio family. Daddy and Elliott Richard had a blast setting up his new home and feeding him and holding him.

Until Daddy got a tad research happy. What started as a joke about how you tell the boys from the girls, turned into an all out, “Honey, this is so cool! Did you know…?” session. This session ended with Rob declaring that Draco needed to go back to the store because Green Iguana bites could get so bad and people have actually lost fingers!

So first thing this morning, despite having had little to no sleep, Daddy and Elliott Richard took Draco back to the store and returned with two Bearded Dragons. The Bearded Dragons were bred in captivity so they are super people friendly and will just cling to your shoulder while you go about your business. And by “your” I of course mean everyone’s shoulder but mine because while I’ve always thought I liked lizards; I was wrong. These things (the Green Iguana too) freak me out and panic me in ways I don’t understand.

Elliott Richard, and the other two for that matter, also think Salt and Pepper are really cool. So I’ll live with my anxiety over them. At least they are slightly better than Draco. Except for the fact that we have two and no way to sex them so there’s a chance we could end up with baby Salt and Peppers at some point in the future. Yippee. Just what we need.

Toy Story at 4AM anyone?

Here we are, it’s 4AM and I’m camped out on the couch with Mr. Emmett John, while Rob wrestles with Elliott Richard upstairs.

Elliott Richard has been up since 2-ish with nightmares and unable to sleep. Then Emmett John woke up between Rob and I hopping out of bed to tend to Elliott Richard’s screaming and his actual screaming. When Emmett wouldn’t go back to sleep I brought him downstairs because sometimes the change in scenery and air conditioner will get him back to sleep when nothing else can.

No such luck.

Then the screaming began all over again. Only this time it was Mr. Emmett John. He was inconsolable. I thought he wanted to go upstairs back to bed, which was currently occupied by Rob and Elliott Richard so that wasn’t going to happen. After a while Rob came down and told me to just take him back to bed.

So back up the stairs we went. Straight into the…bathroom!?!?!

Emmett John had remembered where I hid his shoes when I took them off last night for his tubby. And yes, I said I hid them. We have to, otherwise he sleeps in them! (lol)

Now he has his socks and shoes on and all is right with his world. Except he keeps trying to steal my coffee! (lol)

* posted on the fly w/o the use of proper editing tools 😉 *

~ Lizzeann

Elliott Richard’s 1st Alphabet

Elliott Richard had been working quietly and diligently in the playroom when he came to show me what he had been working on:

Writing the letters of the alphabet from memory on his Magnadoodle.

He had 7 or 8 that he had written from memory and he wanted help with the remaining 19 or so. So we sat down and I showed him how to draw his missing letters and then he drew them in, where ever he could find space, which is why they may appear jumbled and out-of-order. I think he did a pretty good job considering we just started working on writing the alphabet not too long ago. =)

* posted on the fly w/o the use of proper editing tools 😉 *

~ Lizzeann

Brotherly Love

Upon hearing squeals (quickly turning to screams) from Mr. Emmett John, I turned to find the following scene:

{Elliott Richard had Emmett John firmly around the middle.}

Me: Elliott Richard! Let go of your brother! He doesn’t want any lovins right now.

Elliott Richard: But Mom, I just love him so much! {As he throws his arms out until his hands touch behind his back in the “I love you this much!” move.}

* posted on the fly w/o the use of proper editing tools 😉 *

~ Lizzeann

Almost there!

I am done with 3/4 of today’s appointments! Yippee! =)

Now I’m going to rest before I take Elliott Richard to #4 and I’ll update about the day later.

* posted on the fly w/o the use of proper editing tools 😉 *

~ Lizzeann

And away we go!

Of course, on my totally booked solid day I wake up at 3am unable to sleep. After I did some laundry and grabbed a snack I finally fall back to sleep only to have Mr. Emmett John wake up at 4am and refuse to go back to sleep. It’s now 6am and I’m going back to sleep for a few hours. Emmett John still refuses to sleep.

Please pray that he isn’t a complete and total Grumpy Gus from lack of sleep and having his scheule thrown off.

* posted on the fly w/o the use of proper editing tools 😉 *

~ Lizzeann